How many times have you gotten really mad at your best friend over something really petty and you go days, maybe even a week or so without talking to them and when you do get around to talking again neither one of you knows why you where mad at each other? It happens to all of us, we never want to think about them not ever being there to talk or text us, and we just assume they will always be around. Well they might not be there next time you pick up your phone or jump in your car and stop by their house. I’m speaking from experience! I lost my best friend and her four year old son in a tragic accident on a day that was supposed to be just a fun filled Saturday at the mud pit. We never made it there; instead we ended up on the side of Manito blacktop saying good-bye to each other after a seventeen year friendship. That day I lost my best friend! She isn’t at the other end of the phone when I pick it up and dial her number, she doesn’t message me anymore on facebook, and she doesn’t stop by my house just to hang out anymore. I miss her dearly, and I now think of the petty arguments we had or the phone calls I ignored thinking I could just call her back another time. Every one will have disagreements, and get mad at their best friend sometime in their life, just remember to be careful of what you say and don’t take your time together for granted.
Your post makes my stomach sink and brings a tear to my eye, as I was reading this I was thinking of my best friend I have had since we were in diapers and how even though we leave an hour apart she is the first one I call with exciting news or when I need a word of advice. I would be lost without her because she has been such a big part of my life all these years. At the same time I was also thinking of the fights we have had over stupid things like boys or other friends. I have never really stopped to think what life would be like without her, but now that I have read your experience I never want to fight wither her again. Right after reading your post I texted her to tell her how much I miss her and how much she means to me. Thank you for making me realize this because you are right nothing should be taken for granted.
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ReplyDeleteReading your post made me think about my best friend who now goes to college in Nebraska. We have been best friends since freshman year when I met her. We did everything together. This past summer came and we both had jobs, boyfriends, other friends and we just did not have time for each other it seemed like. When we did hangout it kind of felt awkward a little just because we did not know what was going on with each others lives. She had a going away party and that is when I realized she was not going to be here anymore to have sleepovers, go shopping, or go on a run with. That night made me wish I had not changed plans with her to be with my boyfriend or other friends. Once she went away we have been staying in touch a lot through texts, Facebook, and Skype. I miss her so much! But, reading your post made me think about her and how I never want to take her for granted again and that I want to stay best friends even though we live six hours apart.
ReplyDeleteYour post really tugged on my emotions! I have found myself taking my friends for granted many times and this is a reminder not to. I had an experience like yours recently. One of my friends died tragically three weeks ago and I miss his so much. It’s so hard to remind myself he is really gone and I will never see him again. It really makes me look at my life and remind myself to never take anyone for granted because you never know if it will be the last time you see them. I’m really sorry for all the pain you had to go through with losing your friend
ReplyDeleteI know first hand what you are talking about. Things like that change your life and make you realize that you can't hold grudges. I didn't lose my best friend, but I did lose my dad. But, if you think about it, it is still the same concept. I cant call him to tell him about my day, I cant tell him about some boy breaking my heart, and I can't enjoy some of the fun things we did together. We never know how much simple things mean to us until they are gone. I agree with you 100% when you say don't take things for granted, because no one ever knows when they will be taken away.
ReplyDeleteYour blog made me want to pick up my phone to text my old friend and acknowledge even her existence into my life again. She wasn’t just a friend, but my best friend, we were inseparable from each other, and loving every minute of it from grade school to high school. At the end of our senior year we got into a huge fight, things were said and feelings were utterly hurt on both sides. We let our pride get into our way of our friendship and haven’t said sorry since. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss her, I cannot wait to read more on your blog, maybe it will help me yield to my pride and rebuild the bridge with my old friend.
ReplyDeleteYour blog made me want to call my one best friend that I am not talking to at this moment. We haven’t been talking for a couple of weeks now. The argument we got into was serious to me but I think its something that I can get over. This blog almost made me start crying because you never know how long you have with that person. I lost someone that was like a best friend and that was my grandfather. I lost him a couple of weeks ago. It happened so soon because I just talk to him the day before he died. So I feel that you should never take anybody for granted no matter what the situation is.
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