Tuesday, October 4, 2011
MESSY, MESSY LITTLE GIRL?!!!
Okay, Im at a loss of what to do now. "Felicity" is my daughters name and she is a smart and beautiful little girl who is inspiring to be a veternarian when she grows up because she loves animals. Felicity is not lazy, she is willing to help anyone except her brothers. She doesnt watch much television, she loves to read. Yes, I actually have to restrict her reading sometimes.. I have taken everything enjoyable away from my eleven year old daughter aside from school which she loves, and she still will not clean her room!!! I have offered incentives, bought her nice things for her room that I will not allow her to have until her room is clean, and she still wont do it! My boys clean their room, and even try to help her clean room, she will sit by and supervise them as they try to clean her room, but she wont do it! Im not asking her to scrub my floors with a toothbrush or wash the windows, I just want her things put away neatly and her dirty laundry in the hamper. I know I will probably be the one to go in and clean her room, any suggestions on how to get her to do it???? Do any of you ladies remember giving your parents a hard time about cleaning your room?
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I use to be a slob when I was younger and would frustrate my poor mother so much. I would find every excuse I could so that I would get out of cleaning my room. I honestly had no good reason for not wanting to clean my room. I finally started “liking” the idea of cleaning my room when I got an award for it. I got a whopping five dollars for every time I would clean my room. I no longer would put cleaning my room on the back burner. Maybe you can try this with your daughter and see if it works?
ReplyDeleteOh my, when you talked about your boys helping her and she just sits back and supervises brought back memories of when my sister and I shared a room when we were little bitty, I use to “supervise” my sister when we were to clean and then told on her when she stopped cleaning. What started making me want to clean my room was money as well as what Kelly’s mom did, just a few bucks for a kid can change their whole prospective about cleaning. But my mom gave me a piggy bank and what she gave me for cleaning my room id put half in there and half I could spend, after a few times of that she’d put what money was in my piggy bank into my bank account. There for overall it helped me keep my room clean and gave me some extra money when I got older.
ReplyDeleteI was just like that as a little girl. Well actually my room needs cleaned now so maybe I have not changed too much. Whenever my parents nagged me to clean my room I did the opposite of what they wanted just because they were pushing me about it. I would clean my room when they were not on my back about it. I would turn on music and it made cleaning fun. I still jam out to some of my favorite songs while I clean. I’m sure you can picture someone singing and dancing with a vacuum as a microphone/ guitar. Well that’s me. Maybe try to make cleaning fun for her and a bonding experience for the both of you.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was younger, I was always clean. My two younger sisters on the other hand, not so much. My suggestion would be to go in her room with her and teach her how to clean it up. Don't do everything for her though. What I mean is this, if she has a ton of dirty clothes all over the floor, pick it up and say "I want you to put your dirty clothes in the hamper," and make her do the rest. My mom used to do this with my sisters all the time, and now they clean their rooms. She would also watch them while they picked up.
ReplyDeleteYour daughter is exactly like me when I was younger. Now that I think of it, I am still like your daughter. I am the messiest person ever. People ask if i live in my car it such a disaster and you're lucky if you can ever see the carpet in my room. No clothes are ever hanging or folded right, just left on the floor. My mom has always tried to get me to keep it clean, but she has yet to be successful. I have maybe kept it clean for 1 week straight. I would have to make sure it was clean every other weekend though or I was not allowed to leave and hang with my friends. When I was younger though, my parents would take things away or not allow me to leave my room and take away anything that would be a distraction from cleaning my room.
ReplyDeleteI definitely remember my mom giving me a hard time with cleaning my room. Actually, still to this day she does. I came home from school one day and I walk into my rooming seeing all of these boxes and crates. So even though this mess is killing me I don’t say anything. Till that one day it was irritating her so she just cleaned up the whole room herself. And like your daughter, when I was younger my cousin would help me but I would sit in one spot and act like I’m doing something. I really don’t have any suggestions on how to get her to clean up her room because I can’t even remember how my mom got me to clean mine.
ReplyDeleteMy children, all three of them, like to do this to me constantly. I offer incentives to helping, such as whoever gets their room clean the fastest gets to pick whats for dinner the following night, or if they get it all done they get to watch a movie before bed. My kids are also a lot younger than your daughter so I am not sure if that would work for you. I would try sitting down and talking to her about the importance of cleanliness, just a reminder. Maybe there is some other issue outside of cleaning that's bothering her? A positive pep-talk might help her. That is just about all I can think of so hopefully all of our comments have helped you in some way! Good luck!
ReplyDeleteThis is a very funny topic. I'm actually chuckling as i read this. I've never heard of a girl not wanting or willing to clean her room. This is a first. I am lost on what to do. usually it is the boy in the family who won't clean there room. I am one of them, but I wish you the best on finding a way to get her to clean her room
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